Military Marriage vs. Non-military Marriage

This question was asked on a facebook page:

"Do you think military marriages and relationships are different from civilians marriages and relationships if so why or why not."

Some of the answers:

Deployments are the biggest difference and also the hardest. I do think there's more pride as a military wife than a civilian one.

Military relationship I think are much stronger than most marriage. Yes we all deal with same thing but military has deployments which to me either makes or breaks a marriage. Military is gone a lot a lot of long hours. Military spouse put up with some much raising kids on our own. House bills jobs school all our own most of the time.

I do think there is a difference. We have to have amazing trust in each other. There is so much time that we have to be apart, that you really have to trust in your spouse. We do deal with similar issues that civilian marriages do, but it is not uncommon to do it long distance.

I think it takes a stronger woman to be with a solider, and a stronger man to be in a relationship while he's deployed. a relationship isn't on hold during deployment, and i definately respect any man who can put effort into a relationship while being deployed.

I totally think there is a difference in the loyalty and trust. Some on my civi friends say girl idk how you go so long with out sex... or how you can be alone so long... or How can you be a part time single mom? That tells me that they couldnt do it. But it could be also that they havent found someone that they love that much and wait for them.

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So, I am gonna touch on some of this...

1. "more pride as a military wife than a civilian one".... who is to say a military wife has more pride than a civilian wife? can the wife of a police officer not be as proud of her husband as the wife of a soldier? can the wife of a trash man not be as proud of her husband as the wife of a soldier? the job isn't what counts... a woman will be proud of her man as long as he doing what he needs to do and providing for his family...the job is of no concern...and don't give me the "they are fighting for our country" crap either...while this is true in MOST cases, there are some soldiers who do some really shitty things....

2. "military relationships are much stronger/Military spouse put up with some much raising kids on our own. House bills jobs school all our own most of the time.".... really? last time I checked there are women all over who take care of kids and bills and the home all alone with no spouse there... in fact, I think some of them have it harder than a military spouse b/c they don't even have the support of a man, financial or otherwise....and how are military relationships stronger? please, do tell... circumstances and the people involved are what make a relationship, any relationship, strong or weak... I know a few military relationships that are shit... being military has nothing to do with how strong your marriage is...

3. " We have to have amazing trust in each other/I totally think there is a difference in the loyalty and trust".... so non-military marriages don't need trust and loyalty? I must have missed that memo...I thought ALL marriages needed trust and loyalty...silly me, it's only military ones that do... uh huh...

4. "I think it takes a stronger woman to be with a solider, and a stronger man to be in a relationship while he's deployed."..... so, women who aren't with soldiers are weak? or just b/c some women may realize this lifestyle isn't for them, they are weak? no... admitting this lifestyle isn't for you and choosing walk away instead of living a lie is strong...being honest with yourself instead of faking the funk is anything but weak... and it takes a strong man to be in a relationship while deployed? no... it takes a strong man to keep his marriage together and to work on it daily REGARDLESS of whether he is deployed or not... deployment has nothing to do with it...

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So, for some reason, this really irked me...which is why I wrote here instead of going off in the post. It came across to me that some women think they are better b/c they are married to a soldier...that their marriage is stronger and full of more trust b/c they are married to a soldier... that they are strong women b/c they are married to a soldier... how about being strong and better than others b/c of what you have done and accomplished, or b/c of the kind of person you are...not just b/c you're married to a soldier...

/rant

DO NOT ENTER!!

At the request of several ladies, ((Aimee, Rissa, Marla, Renee, Shera, Sairah...yes, I called you out!!)), I will give my views on "buttsecks" lol. Now, I really don't understand WHY anyone likes this!! Hello people!!! Unless your ass has some kind of built in numbing agent, buttsecks is a NO-NO!!

So, let me go google the dangers of buttsecks for the pervos who wanted me to talk about it. LOL....going to google now....

"Anal sex, bum sex, sex by the back door, the Greek or Italian way, fudge-packing and sodomy - these are some of the terms used to describe anal sex. It involves anal penetration of the anus (or rectum) by an erect penis or even a vibrator, dildo or "butt plug."

First - anatomy. At the lower end of the bowel, there are two distinct circular bands of muscles, sphincters, one is located about an 1 ½" above the other. These clamp down tight to prevent the passage of feces or gas. The mucous membrane lining of the rectum is not as heavy as the lining of the vagina, so it can tear quite easily and it does not heal as quickly as the vagina. Because feces, loaded with bacteria, are passing by, any tear is vulnerable to infection.

The vigorous thrusting that may occur during anal intercourse can tear the mucous membrane. This can develop into an anal abscess that can become infected - more about that in a moment. Also, if your partner has any of the sexually transmitted infections (STI's), then you could get infected through the tear. So we are talking about gonorrhea (treatable); venereal warts (treatable if external, difficult if up in the rectum); syphilis (treatable); herpes (treatment, no cure); yeast infection (treatable); and HIV and AIDS (treatment but no cure.) You do not want any of these STI's."

Okay, that ^^^ is one thing I found when I googled. So, can someone explain why men want to stick it where poo and bacteria come out? What is the attraction? Do they really want doo-doo in their genitals?!! And while this may be pleasurable to them, do they really think it is pleasurable to us?!! THINK AGAIN GUYS!!!!

Who can resist it after reading all of that? Rips and tears, warts on our ass... yeah, sounds like something I would love to try............NOT!

So, to answer your question ladies... NO, I DO NOT LIKE IT...lol

lol, get it? "butt" as in cigarette... I know, it's late, time for bed lol.




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A Nightmare on Elm Street 2010

Ewww, I do not like it. What were they thinking trying to replace Robert Englund?!! His "freddy" was creepy and scary and believable!! This new "freddy" is a pervert! He seemed more like he wanted to screw his victims than kill them. Yuck. Disappointed in this movie. Sometimes, re-makes should be "re-thunk" and not made lol. That is all. =)

Long time, no post =)

Well it has been a while since a posted... R&R is almost over... However, he'll be home again by the end of the year! Another deployment will be down. I can't wait for him to go Drill so we can have a few years without a deployment... it would be oh-so nice!

When my hunk-a-burning love came home for R&R we took off for 4 days to Florida all by our lonesome. Thanks Sharon!! =) We went to the movies and out to lovely dinners...did Sea World and played miniature golf! The killer whales were awesome and I enjoyed it so much! I also enjoyed miniature golf because I whooped the hubs ass, haha...

We took the kids to "Star Castle" in Savannah. It wasn't like I thought it was going to be, but the kids had a great time! DeeJay hit 1,000 tickets on one game in the arcade and he also hung with me a bit roller skating. The hubs met the floor with his ass when he tried to skate so that was a no go for him, LOL. All in all, it was a good day.

Last night, my friend Staci kept the kids while me and the hubs went to the movies and saw "Case 39". It was a good movie.... made me jump a few times (but don't tell anyone lol). It was about a little girl who teachers thought she was being neglected at home. Child services got the case and inspected the family. The case worker knew something was wrong, but legally nothing could be done because there was no proof. So she gave the little girl her phone number in case she ever got scared. Long story short, the girl was a demon!! LOL. Good good movie.

Hubby is out getting his hair cut and I am BS-ing on here while watching "Eclipse". Sounds fun huh? I got some new books from the library that I am going to be "taking notes" from and making posts about. Some military related, other health related. Stay tuned!! =)