Wednesday, January 9, 2013

"Dear Civilian Girl" - A little rant =)

 So, this little "tid bit" was shared in my army wife group on Facebook. I've seen this floating around the internet before and each time I see it, I get more annoyed. This is suppose to be some "letter" to civilian girls from the military girlfriend/wife.
One pet peeve of mine is people telling others how they can/should feel or trying to downplay someone's feelings and emotions simply b/c they aren't in a relationship with someone in the military.
My "comments" on this will be RED. 
Dear Civilian Girl, 
(unless you're a service member, you're a civilian too sweetie)
You complain your boyfriend has worked late all week and you have barely seen him.
I look forward to the 2wks a year we spend together.
(why can't she complain? she can't miss her man? time with her man is just as important to her as it is to you..and 2wks a year? exaggeration much?)
You complain because he doesn't call you enough.
My heart is thankful for the 15sec phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night.
(maybe her complaint is valid.. and I see TONS of military s/o's complaining about not enough communication, and it has nothing to do with training or deployments)
You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already and he is on a 2 day trip with his parents.
 I won't see him for another 10months.
(well, let's pull out some cheese to go with YOUR "whine".. who cares? missing someone is missing someone.. maybe they are in that new puppy love stage)
 You don't feel like making love tonight because you're tired.
We will stay up all night because we don't know when the last one will be.
(puh-lease! LOL we both have our "too tired" moments and anyone who says they don't is a liar.. I can't even remember the last time we stayed up all night together.. no soldier who has been working all day is gonna stay up all night to have sex when they have to get up at 5am to do it all over again.. maybe once in a blue moon, but I'm willing to bet it's rare lol)
 Your boyfriend belongs to you.
Mine belongs to the government.
(well, YOURS CHOSE to sign on that line.. just sayin')
Your boyfriend is training for his game next weekend.
Mine is trained to kill.
(so? there are plenty of soldiers who play games lol..just because yours is trained to "kill" that makes him better? No. Don't even get me started on that one.. )

It's just not practical for you to drive an hour to see him every weekend during school.
He spends $700 on plane tickets just to see me for 2 days.
(You are complaining about her not driving to see him, yet you aren't going to see yours either..he is coming to you... and if this is during school, which I will assume is college, maybe it isn't practical for her to go every weekend..maybe she has studying and responsibilities to do, maybe she doesn't have the money to go EVERY weekend..)
You hate hanging up the phone when you talk to him.
My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.
(again..who cares? she is allowed to dislike the end of phone calls just like you)
Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.
My man works no matter what.
(Again, that is a choice "your man" made. He knew what he was getting into. Why are you having a pissing contest over something not even about you? lol Oh, and just b/c he is at work, don't mean he's working lol)
You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.
I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.
(Trusting someone not to cheat on you is in no way comparable to trusting someone with your life, IMO... and I have seen tons of military s/o's who don't trust their man.. him being a service member has nothing to do with trust.)

You check your phone, see a missed call from him and decide to call him back when you're not busy.
I see a missed call and cry because I don't know when he will call again.
(this just sounds a bit pathetic.. even when my husband was deployed the first time, I didn't cry b/c I missed a call.. then again, I got letters just about every day.. it seriously  sounds like the person who wrote this had no life other than what revolved around him)

You love the fancy necklace he bought you.
I refuse to take his dog tags off and not a day goes by that I don't have them on.
(I'd rather have a fancy necklace.. his dog tags? come on.. I've seen some cute dog tag necklaces that have pics on them or cute sayings.. but his actual dog tags? No. I NEVER once wore them. I don't want the ID tags that they use to in the event of his death hanging around my neck.. it's morbid to me.. and HE is suppose to have them on him at all times, not you.)
You say you miss him.
Times that by 100.
(your love is no greater than someone else's based solely on the fact that your s/o is in the military) 

Okay I'm done now lol I'm sure there are people who think this is just so amazing and describes them so well.. Honestly, I think it sounds rather pathetic. Just my opinion.. /rant



  1. I think the point was to give those in civilian relationships some perspective and to help them be more thankful for what they have. To each their own.

  2. How is it pathetic to cry if you missed his call? That could be our last phone call. "One pet peeve of mine is people telling others how they can/should feel or trying to downplay someone's feelings and emotion..." You're doing the same thing. "lol".