Sunday, August 29, 2010

Generalizations are pure ignorance!!

Here was the question on a facebook page:

"How do you feel about Muslims in the Army? Thoughts? Opinions?"

Here was a response that really irked me:

"I am not even going to get started on this one .. considering what happened at Fort Hood and as a veteran ... yea .. I'm keeping this to myself."

Now, this to me leads me to believe she doesn't like Muslims in the Army. Just because of one man. So, I wonder, if the shooter at Fort Hood was a Christian, would she have a problem with Christians in the military?

And then, on my facebook fanpage there was a post about husbands adding female soldiers to their facebook. Someone said, "And MOST female soldiers ARE out for whatever they can get, because nine times out of ten they KNOW they can get it. It isn't just other womens husbands, but just men in general. I am thankful my husband is infantry and therefore doesn't run into women, but Women, especially female soldiers, are in love with infantry men cause they tend to be seen as the elite." ... and then she wrote, "I FIND THAT MOST FEMALE SOLDIERS, AT LEAST THE LOWER ENLISTED SOLDIERS ARE SLUTS. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. IT'S MY OPINION AND I AM ENTITLED TO IT."

Now, while it is her opinion, and she is entitled to it, I think it's a crock of shit and that is MY OPINION. How can she say "most female soldiers"? Does she know most of them? I highly doubt it.

That would be like me saying that just b/c I know some men soldiers who cheated on their wives that all men soldiers who are married are going to cheat.

And we all know the stereotypical "army wives are cheating whores who only want the money and benefits."

Come on!! As long as people keep this ignorance going, our country is going to continue to be on its way to hell in a flaming ball of fire wrapped in the hatred of others.


Thursday, August 26, 2010

Family Support Systems

Army Well-Being Program

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If you need help with something and have exhausted all other resources, you may want to try "The Army Information Line" at 1-800-833-6622.

Deployment Cycle Support (DCS)

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*from Military Family Network Your Military Family Network

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Small Rant =)

Here's a few rants...

1. I hate people who fake the funk with you but talk trash behind your back. Don't smile in my face and be cute when you don't really like me. You feel like I don't help you or I'm not a real friend. That's fine, you are entitled to your feelings, but don't be fake with me.

2. If my kids don't stop fighting, they are gonna have to fight me. Houston, we have a problem.

3. School. It's irking me. October can't get here soon enough to finish up this degree.

4. R&R... we'll be getting it soon, and although I'm grateful, it is irksome. It's a tease and I hate teases lol.

Okay, done for now =)

Monday, August 2, 2010

My take on "traditional marriage"... For "Classy" =)

When I think of traditional marriage I think several things. I think of the husband as the worker and the wife as the “homemaker”. That means the husband is out working and bringing in the money and the wife is home taking care of the house and kids. I add kids in there because most families “back then” had kids. I also think of the husband as the “head of the house” where just about all decisions come down to his final say. Also, to me, traditional marriage is between a man and a woman.

Now, do I think that modern day society has ruined the traditional marriage? In some ways, yes. In other ways, I think it has just changed, or adapted to the way things are now.

The only way I think modern day society has ruined “traditional marriage” is the fact that homosexuals are allowed to be married. This is not a “bash” against those who choose this lifestyle, I just don’t agree with it and think it goes against God. I have several people close to my heart who are “gay” and I love them dearly and never treat them any differently than anyone else. I just don’t agree with it. That is all I’ll say on that. =)

In what ways do I think it has changed or adapted?

Well, “back in the day”, and even now for the women who don’t work, the house was and should be the responsibility of the wife. If you’re not working, what reason do you have not to have the house clean? Or not to have the kids clean and well behaved? Or not have dinner ready for your husband? There is no excuse at all. Women who don’t work and stay at home and have a messy home and unruly kids are just plain lazy. Why should you expect your husband to come home after a day of work and take out the trash, cook, take care of the kids….you get the point.

Today, with more women in families working, I can see and understand the sharing of household responsibilities between the husband and wife because it is a partnership. If you are both working to financially support the house, than you should both take on the household chores too.

So, I “preach” about “man of the house” and most know I am a SAHM right now. Do we go by what I consider the traditional marriage? Some what…. I take care of the house, maybe not all the time to my husbands standards, lol, but I am the one that does it. I don’t ask him to do the dishes. I don’t ask him to clean the floors, or do the laundry, or organize the closets. I cook, but he cooks too because he likes to do it. When my husband wants sex, he gets it. I do not deny him anything and he is the same with me. That doesn’t mean we ask for it when one is sick or it’s a “bad” time, there is mutual respect. Also, when it comes down to final say in decisions, it is always up to him if it needs to be. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t discuss things with me and we don’t decide on things together, because we always have. However, if it came down to it, I would let him make the final decision because he is the one who is working and supporting our family financially. Now, I’m almost done with my degree and I will be getting a job this year because the kids will all be in school full-time. Things may change some, they may not. I guess we’ll see.

I think our society has suffered some because of the lack of traditional marriages now. So many women are focused on having a career instead of taking care of their kids. (I’m not referring to women who HAVE to work, I mean women who choose to do so while having young children.) I am glad I could stay home and care for my kids, and teach them, guide them… You see so many out of control kids now-a-days, more than there were years and years ago. If you look at these children, what do you see? From my experience, I see mothers too busy to raise their own kids. They have to have their career and their kids suffer from it. No schedule at home, bouncing back and forth from baby sitter to baby sitter or daycares, how can you expect kids to really learn and be disciplined when they have so many conflicting forces to deal with at such a young age? Okay, I’ll stop with this because it could get ugly. LOL

This could go into some long winded rant, but I will just end his here. I said I would post about what I felt a traditional marriage was but I can see this going off in another direction and it’s not what I want to do. So….til next time! =)

Being a better wife...

I have a book that I absolutely love! It’s called “Created to be his Help Meet”. This book is based around the Bible and God’s view on marriage and how a wife should be. I won’t go into all of it because I know not everyone believes in God, however, there are things in this book that can apply to everyone, believers and non-believers. Here we go!!

Be “sober”.
No, I don’t mean sober as in the opposite of drunk, lol. By “sober” here, I mean more like having common sense. A “sober” wife faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual who has the time to do whatever she pleases. She realizes that marriage is a partnership and she must consider her husband in all things. It’s no longer all “me, me, me”. As “sober” wives, we can’t be frivolous or flighty. Our responsibility now is to our husband, our home, and our children (for those who have children), and of course your job if you work.
We need to make sure our home runs smoothly. If our homes are in chaos, our marriage will end up in chaos too. Planning, preparing, and scheduling will go a long way in making your home run smoothly. When the house is run smoothly it can eliminate a lot of tension and help the home to be a peaceful place to be in.
Simple things to help with this could be planning your meals for the week, assigning chores to children, doing specific chores on specific days, cooking meals ahead of time and freezing for emergency meals in case something comes up and you don’t have time to cook…. You get the idea.

Some things I have noticed that will set the mood for a better evening when my husband comes home from work may help you too.

Clear up the clutter!! The last thing my husband wants is to come home to toys in his way or things on the counter where he lays his beret and keys
Meeting him at the door with a smile and asking how his day was will go over much better than bombarding him with your problems of the day. Let him come in and get settled before discussing problems and complaining. What man wants to come home to a nagging, complaining wife? Not many. If he is use to coming home to “sugar”, he will be the one at work saying, “I can’t wait to go home to my wife!”

Love your husband. Ever since I was a teenager I have believed that women were made to be with men. Either by God or something else, I think we were meant to be partners, help meets, to “belong” to someone else (and someone else belong to us).

In loving my husband, I try the best I can to be comforting and to be a blessing to him. Encouraging him in his career and supporting him 100%.
One of the most important ways in showing love is sex. I don’t care what anyone says to me. Sex is a big part of marriage and if you’re marriage is lacking in this area, you are going to have problems sooner or later.

I always give it to my husband when he wants it. When I say always, I don’t mean even if I’m sick and puking with a 102 degree fever. I mean in reasonable situations. Even if I’m tired and exhausted I still go to bed and be with him. If we deny them this carnal urge, most men will fill this need else where. Sex is important to our husbands.

Take the time to make yourself attractive for him, initiate sex/foreplay. Even when my husband is deployed I try to do these things. If I know we have a “date” on webcam, I will put on my makeup and make sure my hair is done, even if it’s at midnight!! I will tease him with “dirty” talk or flash him, lol. Keep it interesting and keep him interested even when he is gone!
A main point I’d like to make when it comes to loving my husband is that I aim to please him (just as he does me). Whether it be by sex, how I dress, cleaning the house, making what he wants for dinner, getting his car fixed while he is gone, keeping the kids in line….. part of loving is pleasing. Doing things that are pleasing to our husbands show them we appreciate them and respect their feelings, wants, and needs.

Modesty. Let’s touch on this subject for a minute. We all know there is a proper way to dress and an improper way. It’s great to be sexy for your husband and even for yourself. However, being sexy and being trashy are often confused.
I can’t say how many times I have gone to get my kids from school or gone up to the shoppette and saw some trashy women. It’s so disgraceful to yourself and to your husband.

Married women do not need to be going around with shorts up so high that half their ass cheeks are hanging out and shirts so low cut you can their nipple rings if they have them. The way we are reflects on our husbands and that means a lot in the Army.
What does it really say about you if you dress trashy? When I was single, I would wear more provocative things because I was looking for the attention of men. Now that I am married, the only man’s attention I need is my husbands. How does your husband really feel about it? Do you think that a man who is deployed, who knows his wife dresses properly, has more faith in her than a man who knows his wife shows her goods to the world? One sure way to invoke jealousy in your husband is to dress like a skank. Jealousy is not a good thing.

Well, I suppose that will be all for now with this post….maybe I’ll do some more another time. =)