My "Baby" is now 7yrs old!

I can't believe Alexis is now 7yrs old! Since June 1st she had been counting down the days to her birthday. I won't lie, it was a little annoying lol every morning, "Moooommmmm, guess whaaat?!! X days until my birthday!!" LOL

I'm an Army Wife- I eat all day, spend ALL my husbands money & neglect my kids =)

I wasn't going to post about this, but after seeing a comment on my page, AWDIWH, I decided to.

This woman posted this on my page, in reference to military spouses - "You people are retarded...I've forgotten more shit about the army life and deployments then you will ever know. Go back to doing what you do best...eating and spending your husbands money on stupid shit and neglecting your children." - a former soldier

"Chex Mix" - a prescription drug party

When I was a teenager I did some stupid things...we all have I'm sure. I use to tell my mom I was staying over so & so's house and I really stay at my boyfriends and party half the night.

The parties I would go to there would be people smoking weed, making out, and drinking 40's and Boones Farm...you know you remember Boones LOL... we sat around playing cards and listening to music...some people danced... I did not, sadly I lack in the coordination department lol

Now that I have put that out there let me tell you what I heard on the radio this morning. Apparently, teens now, go to parties and make a "chex mix". This "chex mix" consists of prescription pills that the kids steal from their parents. They empty all the pills into a big bowl and mix it up. They then each take 2 pills, not knowing what pills they are taking.

The only prescription pills I have are my thyroid pills...for someone without an underactive thyroid my pills would be like speed for them. I can't imagine a teen taking my dosage, let alone mixing it with something else! And I'm sure that along with the pills, these teens are drinking too.

Teen parties now-a-days include heavy drug use, strong alcohol and sex. I can only pray that I raise my kids well enough to have better sense than this. My boys are turning 13 & 12 this summer... it scares the shit out of me.

Here are some websites that might be of interest to those with kids:
TimeToTalk
Parents: The anti-drug
D.A.R.E.

Spread the word so that parents of teens are aware of this new trend... you never know if it will be your child.

I ♥ Halloween!

Halloween has always been a fun time for me. My birthday is a few days before Halloween so my mother would always throw me a birthday/halloween party for my birthday... everyone would dress up (even my mom) and we would play all kinds of games and just "wild out"... I miss that...

Here is my mom at one of my Birthday Parties, she made a great witch!:

Besides being close to my birthday, I love horror movies!! October is the month when a whole bunch of channels do horror movie marathons and play some of my old faves..."Halloween", "Friday the 13th", "Pumpkin Head", "Hocus Pocus"...so many more...

Last Halloween was so much fun! I dressed up with the kids... we did something at the Battalion and had a blast... there was face painting, crafts, food, costume contests...which my boys won 2nd place in =)

Mario and Luigi:

Alexis was a princess...so fitting lol:

Here are some pics from the FRG function at Battalion:

On Halloween night was when the real fun started!! We went "Trick or Treating" with some friends and then we handed out candy... I'm all about scary stuff so I was having so much fun scaring the kids lol... some of them were scared to come up to the table and get candy and one little kid actually growled!! Too funny!

More pics (I'm the white face):

I can't wait for Halloween this year!! I'm thinking of being a wicked witch since Alexis is going as Dorothy... but if I am, I'm gonna be a sexy wicked witch to show of my new, smaller boobies ;)

Makes Sense Doesn't It?

Been seeing this around Facebook so I'm gonna comment on it here.

"Dirty dishes prove I feed my kids, full trashcans prove I've tried to clean, messy floors prove that I let my kids have fun, piles of clothes prove I keep my kids in clean clothes, a messy bathroom proves that I bathe my children! So next time you walk into my house and see a mess, think twice before you judge!!! keep this going if you are a parent"

Dirty dishes prove I feed my kids - I didn't realize it was so hard to wash a dish when you're done! If you wash them as you dirty them, they don't pile up. Makes sense doesn't it?


Full trash cans prove I've tried to clean - No, full trash cans means you're too lazy to take out the trash. When the trash gets full you take it out of the can, tie it up and put it in the big trash can for trash day. This helps keep the nasty smell out of your house and the bugs away. Makes sense doesn't it?

Messy floors prove that I let my kids have fun - Or it could just mean that you are too lazy to sweep and mop and pick up toys. Or too lazy to teach your kids to clean up after themselves. Or both. If you keep the clutter to a minimum it is easier to keep it clean. Have a basket designated to toys downstairs and have your kids pick up after themselves when they are done playing. Then you won't be embarrassed at your mess when someone pops by unannounced. Makes sense doesn't it?

Piles of clothes prove I keep my kids in clean clothes - Not really. Do your laundry as it gets dirty and you won't have tons of it to do all in one day... teach your kids to put their clothes away. Piles of clothes are just place for bugs to hide. Keep the clothes clean and put up and it teaches your kids about responsibility in the long run. Part of a good lesson down. Makes sense don't it?

A messy bathroom proves that I bath my children - all it does is prove you're too lazy to clean it up. How messy can a bathroom get from bathing anyway? Is it that hard to hang the towel when you're done or put the toys up so they can dry and not get moldy? Who wants to bathe in a nasty bathroom? No one that I know... makes sense doesn't it?

On that note, I don't judge people based on the way their house looks.. Lord knows I have my "messy" moments, but not all the time and I don't make excuses for it. If my place is messy it's because I was lazy and didn't clean it. Not because I have kids.

  

Sugar & Spice..remembering some of my childhood

We all know that cute little saying about girls...

"Sugar and spice
and everything nice
that's what little girls are made of

Sunshine and rainbows
and ribbons for hair bows
that's what little girls are made of

Tea parties, laces
and baby doll faces
that's what little girls are made of"

Growing up, I was NEVER a "sugar & spice" girl. As a matter of fact, I hated dresses and cute little bows in my hair. I never did tea parties. I loved little dolls though.

I was a little "tomboy". I was the girl playing in the creek with my friends (who were mainly boys) and catching bull frogs and tad poles.... playing in the "gunky" end of the lake, putting worms on hooks and catching "Sunnies" only to pull them off the hook and throw them back in... I was the little girl always running around barefoot with feet blacker than a sky with no stars at night!

We had these huge dirt hills at the edge of the woods that we would play on... we pretended all kinds of things on these hills... we were in a war in the desert, on a pirate ship in the sea, in a castle fighting off ogres.. in the winter time when it snowed those dirt hills were our mountains that we went sliding down,hitting bump after bump and knocking the wind out of our chests... I loved those dirt hills.

Behind the dirt hills we had a little trail that went into the clearing... some of the boys made a fort in the big tree in the center and we would go around getting furniture and odds-n-ends from peoples trash to make it our own..you couldn't tell us nothing, our little fort/tree house was the best thing ever! As the trail continued it went off deeper into the woods... at one point there was this abandoned yellow car off to the right... it was a big deal to go near it, it meant you weren't afraid.. of course we had a few stories of how that car ended up back there, most involved murder and bad things happening to girls who didn't listen to their parents.. continuing on the trail it got narrow and led to this lake with another set of woods.. rarely would you see us in the woods at night... stories of little creatures with red beady eyes floated around and none of us were quite brave enough to find out if the stories were true... lol

When you couldn't find me in the woods or on the hills or in the lake or at the creek, you could find me in the fields with the boys playing tag football... as we got older it turned into tackle... I was always bruised up and bleeding somewhere! lol.. fun times...

All that really stopped with me once I turned 13 and became boring.. that was when I started noticing boys in a different manner... than came the cute clothes and lip gloss... making sure my hair looked pretty... no more dirt hills or football...

Sometimes I sit around and remember back to those times and think of the friends I had and all the memories we made.. I wish I had stayed a tomboy a bit longer... man do I miss catching "sunnies"...

Out of Control...

Let's start from the beginning of this whole mess... I will not refer to people by their real names. I'm sure some involved are embarrassed enough, but I have to share this because I'm just dumbfounded at the ignorance and lack of control that I have seen this past week.

This started on Tuesday. My friend, whom I will refer to as "Spouse" dropped off her 2yr old for the day with me because I have been watching him for her. All was well all day long until my son came home and told me that "M" (a boy who lives 2 houses down) had my friend "Spouse's" other son on the ground after school with his arm twisted behind his back. Naturally, when "Spouse" came to pick up her baby, I let her know of this situation. She went next door to speak to "M's" mother, who I will now refer to as "Soldier", but she wasn't home yet. So "Spouse" let the two boys know that she would be coming back later to talk to their mother about what was going on.

A few hours later "Spouse" came over and I went with her to "Soldier's" house to try to resolve this issue with the kids. I went because my son is the one who saw the altercation. When "Spouse" and "Soldier" were talking, "Soldier's" other son, "A", was there. "Soldier" asked "A" what happened after school and he kept giving some jumbled explanation and then started getting hype and rude with "Spouse". Then "Spouse" says to "Soldier" in so many words that she needed to tell her boys not to be putting their hands on other peoples kids and they needed to be taught some respect. Well that didn't go over well with "Soldier". They exchanged some words and "Soldier" told "Spouse" - "you black bitch you need to take your ass back to the ghetto"... My face dropped!! I couldn't believe she said that. So then "Spouse" tells "Soldier" - "make me take my black ass back to the ghetto"... that is when "Soldier" hit "Spouse" and a fight broke out. "A" tried to jump on "Spouse" and I grabbed him and pulled him off yelling to get out of it before he got hurt. When "Spouse" saw the boy was trying to jump in it she backed away and turned around. Then "A" yelled out that "Spouse" punched him, which she didn't, and that caused "Soldier" to come up to "Spouse" and hit her again. Which resulted in her getting her ass beat...bad. The MP's were there, the ambulance, CID...it was crazy..

The next day, Wednesday, "Spouse" went to the school to let them know that her kids weren't gonna be there because of this altercation. You see, "A" was in the same class as "Spouse's" daughter "S". She knew there would be tension and she wanted to let it cool down a bit.

So, yesterday, Thursday, during school at recess, "A" was picking on and pushing "S" around. Nothing more happened with them... at that point. Well, my son comes home and tells me that "M", the same boy from Tuesday who had put his hands on "Spouse's" son, had pushed MY daughter in the back and then punched her in the back. Being my Pookie, she smashed the little boy in the face and ran home crying. I decided not to approach "Soldier" about her son because I was a witness to what had happened when "Spouse" approached her. I didn't need to be getting into a fight. I just figured, okay, the boy learned his lesson because my daughter shocked him by hitting him back.

Fast forward about 2hrs... "Spouse" comes to pick up her baby and told her about the boy hitting my daughter and we were talking about how "Soldier's" boys were out of control. "Spouse" goes home. Next thing I know, "Spouse" is rushing in my door telling me to call the MP's because "Soldier's" son, "A", had attacked her daughter "S" with a stick and a knife. He had pulled her hair, threw her on the ground and kicked her in the stomach. At this point I'm in complete shock. Srsly! What 10yr old kid does that shit?! My son saw the whole thing and made a report to the MP's...

Now, I had done had enough at this point and so had my friend "Spouse". I went to the MP's and filed a report about the boy hitting my daughter. I also went to the school to make them aware of the boy hitting my daughter. Together, "Spouse" and I went to the housing office and made resident complaints about "Soldier's" kids. I also gave them a copy of my sworn statement to the police. Turns out, they have a file already on "Soldier's" kids and "Soldier" said in one of the reports "they are kids on a military installation, that is what they do".

Now, all because "Soldier" doesn't have her kids in control, she is about to get evicted. Her command is being involved and everything. I'm pretty sure this is not going to look good for her army career.

So, there are more details, but that is the gist of it. This just goes to show that kids WILL behave according to their examples and kids who have no supervision and little discipline WILL be trouble makers.

I have not had problems living on post in 9yrs until this week. The problem was not with another wife, it wasn't some petty drama... it was out of control kids and a mother who apparently displays some questionable actions in front of her kids. If my kids went around hitting on others and calling people "black bitches" and "fags" they would not be able to even walk. Yes, "Soldier's" son "A" said those things....I heard him. SMH...

CONTROL YOUR KIDS LADY!!! /rant

Fun in the sun on the 4th!

The kids and I had a blast yesterday!

We went around to the activities on post and the kids went roller skating and rock wall climbing.

After that we went off post to get some ice cream to cool down =) Sonic Java Chiller (caramel) is the bomb =)

When we came back on post we went to a different area so the kids could get their faces painted and play on the big blow-up slides and in the bounce house. In this area there was a dog show going on. I had never heard of them before. They are called Disc-Connected K9's (click on their name to see their facebook page) and the show they put on was awesome! I think my favorite thing about them is that they work with all dogs who have been rescued. The stories are very touching! My boys loved them and Richie kept saying the entire way home "Those dogs were beast!" - for those of us who aren't hip, he means they were great, lol. The boys got their pics done with one of the dogs after the show and had their frisbees signed.

**This picture is for the AWN Photo Challenge.**

All in all, the day was great and full of fun, even though I got burnt.

They are out to get me....

All three of them.... my darling angels, or at this moment, not so angelic... it seems to me that my boys truly believe I love to hear them argue and fight. Well, now I think they know otherwise seeing as how on Saturday night they are in bed at 7:30pm.

My boys like to play couch commando and constantly want control of the television when they come in from playing outside. My daughter whines and cries that she NEVER gets to watch what she wants.... (you can only take so much of "max & ruby")...Then the boys go on to say she ALWAYS gets to watch what she wants....so guess what? NO TV!! Yup, tv is unplugged and it is so peaceful =)

I think I will play some solitaire while I have these rare quite moments to myself...

Some ideas to help children get through deployments ~

**One thing I make sure I do is take lots of pictures BEFORE my husband deploys. This is good for a few things.

1. For infants/toddlers, you can make a small a photo album for them to play with. Put pictures of them with their parent who is deployed in it so they recognize their face when they come home.

2. For older kids, they can make themselves their own scrapbook with the pictures and write their own captions for them.

3. You can have bear made with a shirt on it that has a picture of the child and deployed spouse.

**You can get a poster board and make a map for your child to hang in their room, or anywhere in the house. Circle where you live and where the deployed parent is. Maybe use a thumb tack to track the parent getting closer to home with each day that passes by. Use a calendar with this for the child to count down.

**You can also have the deployed parent make a voice recording for their child. Just a regular recording, or one that can be put in a stuffed animal, or make a video of the parent reading a book to the child before they leave.

**Let the kids communicate with their deployed parent. Little ones can draw pictures and send them. Older ones can write letters, or like my kids, they have emails for this purpose.

**Keep a routine!! Kids with a routine will feel less stressed because they know what to expect just about every day.

**We love using the web cam too! Even if they only get to see him for a minute or two because of a bad connection, they still love it. Getting to see him and knowing he is okay is a major boost for them.

**Journals or video diaries may help too. Your child can keep a journal of things they want to share with their deployed parent when they come home so they don't forget anything. Video diaries would serve the same purpose.

These are just a few ideas I think are good. You can "google" to look for more good ideas! =)