My own "WTF moment" - "Nigga vs Nigger" - WARNING- offensive language

Someone seriously said they don't see the difference between a black man saying "nigga" to other black people & a white person saying "nigger" to a black person out of anger. HUH?

Let's educate a moment here.

Nigga - Slang term for homie, friend, buddy, etc., used primarily by African-Americans

Nigger - slang, extremely disparaging and offensive, meant for a black person or dark-skinned person

So, when my husband says to one of friends when playing Madden, "Nigga I ran that shit all the way down the field" - he is talking to his friend, who is also black...

When a white person gets made a black person and says, "you fucking nigger" - that is them telling them are worthless, they are a piece of shit, they are inferior because they are black.

Do we get the difference now? SMH...

Soulja Boy apologizes*

"As an artist, I let my words get the best of me. Sometimes there are things that we feel, things that we want to express, and when we put them on paper and speak them out loud, they can come out wrong.

When I expressed my frustration with the US Army, not only did my words come out wrong, I was wrong to even speak them. So, I write this to give my sincerest apology to all members of the United States military services, as well as their families that were offended by my most recent lyrics.

As a young man who grew up in the post-9/11 era, I have watched our country fight two wars that seem like they are never going to end.

I have seen thousands and thousands of our brave men and women get killed in battle and often times, I think for what? A lot of people in this country are struggling to make ends meet and I think a lot about what if we had never gone to war.

Where would our economy be? Our schools, our after-school and work programs, our streets? I mean, damn, 48 people got shot in New York City just this past weekend ... in 3 days ... I'm not saying that it is just because of a bad economy, but at a certain point we have to take care of our own people.

In no way would I ever want to offend those who are protecting our freedoms ... a lot of homeboys who I grew up with, a lot of people who come from the neighborhoods we live in ... In no way do I want to hurt any of our honorable soldiers who put their lives at risk, regardless of how they feel about the two wars we fight in.

I am just frustrated that we haven't been able to bring you all home quick enough and my frustration got the best of me. I am deeply sorry.

~Soulja Boy"

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You know that Tricare covers Birth Control....right?

This is a "hot topic" for me. Families who keep having babies that they can't afford and then bitching about money just puts me on the edge of screaming at them. And before anyone says "you can get pregnant on BC too", I know that. I know BC fails sometimes, but at least they are trying to be responsible, correct?

If you want tons of kids, more power to you...especially if you can afford them. I'm not saying that people shouldn't have more than one or two kids, not at all. I personally think large families are wonderful. I wish I had a large family growing up.

I see a lot of women on some of these army wives pages complaining about not having enough money for christmas, or for diapers, or needing assistance with this or that. I completely understand that sometimes things happen and finance messes up pay and it could be you're just having a momentary problem. My issue lies with the ones who have kids already and already can't provide for them the way they would like. Then they get pregnant because they weren't careful enough to use birth control.

If you can't afford another baby, no reason is a good one to have one. Having "baby fever" or a recent deployment is not a good enough reason to bring another child into the world that you can't afford, in my opinion anyways... If you know you can barely make car payments, what makes you think you can afford a baby?

From the Tricare website:

Birth Control

TRICARE covers the following forms of birth control when prescribed by a TRICARE-authorized provider:

Contraceptive diaphragm, including measurement, purchase and replacement;
Intrauterine devices, including surgical insertion, removal and replacement;
Prescription contraceptives, including the Preven Emergency Contraceptive Kit containing special doses of regular birth control pills and a self-administered pregnancy test;
Surgical sterilization, male and female.

TRICARE does not cover:

Condoms;
Nonprescription spermicidal foams, jellies or sprays.

Something else I notice that happens - some men seem to like to pressure their wives into having more kids once they come home for deployment or before they leave. The cases I have seen like this are the ones who are trying keep their women tied down because they don't want them out doing things while they are gone. If you feel like this is your husband... run... this is controlling behavior and not cool.

Done with my rant now. =)

Tricare covers BC

Breast Reduction - Part 4

My first post about my breast reduction was on August 3rd. That was my first appointment with my surgeon. Just a little over a month later I'm counting down just days until my surgery.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared. It's a pretty big surgery for me and while I'm excited about the results, I'm scared of what it takes to get there lol... I keep having this dream that I come out of surgery and Darrell gets me in the car. The traffic is crazy and people are swerving in and out (like they love to do in Savannah) and we end up getting hit by a truck. The car is totaled and I'm on a stretcher with my chest full of blood from the surgery and impact ripping me back open! I wake up sweating to death! LOL So, yeah, my mind is messing with me... but it will not stop me! =)

One good thing is that I have Staci and her family here to distract me from thinking about it too much, but the bad thing is that they leave the day after my surgery! I'm gonna be in physical discomfort from my surgery and I'll be in other pain from one of my besties leaving... (Side note: thanks Aimee for getting us together!!)

Just one more thing I'd like to mention... On Thursday night, I am gonna burn my bra. LOL - yup! Burn that big bitch to ashes!! Hahahaa... In no way is it related to feminism, which I hear that wasn't true anyways, but it about my freedom... freedom from the physical pain and discomfort...freedom from the oogling eyes of men (which sometimes, I'll admit, I don't mind) - freedom from something I feel has been holding me back... for my readers, I'll be sure to take a pic of it for laughs =)

Breast Reduction Part 1
Breast Reduction - Part 2
Breast Reduction - Part 3

Soulja Boy - tell 'em - My Personal Opinion, which is sure to piss people off

Why are people letting this get to them so bad? Seriously? In case you are "out of the loop", Soulja Boy said something like "f*ck the troops" in one of his recent songs. I am honestly sitting here NOT CARING. Who cares if he doesn't support the troops? Maybe he does support the troops but this was put in his song for attention and ratings? Either way, it doesn't affect me so I don't care.

What bothers me is how people, specifically military wives, are reacting to this.

I have seen some of the most disgusting things come from military spouses the past few days between this and the whole Sears fiasco and it makes me ashamed to even be lumped in with military wives.

While you ignorant ass wives are being racist towards Soulja Boy, remember that there are black service members "fighting for your freedom" as you all like to shout from the roof tops. So when the word "nigger" rolls so freely from your tongue, remember that. You make me sick. I almost feel bad that I have brought children into this world where such hatred still exists.

I saw someone say something about sending him to Afghanistan or Iraq..blah blah... did you know that some people in the "hood" had it worse during their childhood then soldiers who have been deployed but not seen combat?

By demeaning and downplaying things about this man you are no better than him. Some seem worse in my opinion.

If you're a racist bitch, I can only assume that your spouse is as well and I hope to God my husband never has to fight besides him, being a black man and all... who knows if they would really stand beside my husband... In my opinion, you disgrace yourself and your husband by acting like an ignorant jackass.

Since when did everyone have to support the troops? Is that a rule of life or something? "If you don't support the troops you should leave the U.S."... really? And what are the troops fighting for? Our freedom? NO. We already have freedom. Stop slinging that around. They are fighting in wars because our leaders don't know how to mind their own business. It's about money, oil, control... again, just my opinion..

Here are some posts that prompted me to write this... and no, I didn't block out anyones names... if they didn't want the world to see their ignorant ass posts they wouldn't have put them on a public event on Facebook.

Words like "nigger", "ghetto" and "black ass" are used. Sick.

Breast Reduction - Part 3

Yesterday I had my "pre-op" appointment. When I went in the nurse showed me to the area where I will be getting prepped for my surgery. We talked about the procedure and went over my packet of instructions. I was showed where I would recover too. The doctor came in and we finalized my size I'm going to and he talked to me about my medications. The surgery will only take about 2hrs and I won't have any drains in. I will get one surgical bra and can buy more if I like. The bras are only $18.70!! Much cheaper than the boulder holders I have to buy now! LOL

Here is a list of my medications:

Valium (Diazepam) - used to relieve anxiety, muscle spasms, and seizures (I take this the night before my surgery when I go to bed to help with anxiety/nervousness)

Zofran (Ondansetron) - used to prevent nausea and vomiting caused by cancer chemotherapy, radiation therapy and surgery. Ondansetron is in a class of medications called 5-HT3 receptor antagonists. It works by blocking the action of serotonin, a natural substance that may cause nausea and vomiting. (I will one of these the night before my surgery and the morning of my surgery to help with nausea)

Dilaudid (Hydromorphone) - used to relieve moderate to severe pain. It also may be used to decrease coughing. (For severe pain after my surgery as needed)

Lorcet - narcotic pain reliever used in patients who experience moderate to moderately severe pain. (For after my surgery)

Zantac (Ranitidine) - used to prevent and treat symptoms of heartburn associated with acid indigestion and sour stomach. (For after surgery)

Robaxin (Methocarbamol) - used with rest, physical therapy, and other measures to relax muscles and relieve pain and discomfort caused by strains, sprains, and other muscle injuries. Methocarbamol is in a class of medications called muscle relaxants. It works by slowing activity in the nervous system to allow the body to relax (For after surgery)

Phenergan (Promethazine) - used to prevent and control nausea and vomiting that may occur after surgery, and with other medications to help relieve pain after surgery. (For after surgery)

Man! That's a lot! I'm kind of relieved that my pain will be controlled though lol! I now have one week until my surgery and I'm getting more nervous. Not nervous about the results or having doubts, just nervous about the whole procedure itself, but the nurse tells me it's normal =)

Here is me signing away my "ta-ta's":

Here was my list of prescriptions when I was at the pharmacy getting it filled: (btw, I hate the pharmacy and their slow asses)

Here are the links to my other Breast Reduction Posts -
Breast Reduction - Part 1
Breast Reduction - Part 2