A lot of posts lately from the inbox on AWDIWH have been about men cheating on their wives, or the wives are suspicious of them cheating, or of men lying about small things or even big things such as texting other women even when there is proof to blow them right out of the water.
These kind of things in relationships almost always cause insecurities in women. There are other things that will cause insecurities too. Maybe when you were growing up someone made of you and said your nose was pointy (like me), or that your boobs were too big (like my friend), or maybe your hair wasn't the cutest color and someone made sure they let you know they thought that. Maybe your teacher said in subtle ways that you weren't the brightest in the class. The list goes on...
I completely believe insecurities are LEARNED, but I also believe that they can be UNLEARNED. Do you love yourself? I mean truly, unconditionally love yourself? If you don't, you need to.
When you wake up every day, look in the mirror and say, "hey gorgeous! you're gonna have a great day!". If your husband happens to be there and asks who you're speaking to just tell him, "the most important person in my life". Ultimately, you should be the most important person in your life. If you don't put yourself first and take care of you, you won't be able to properly take care of others.
If you don't like your hair, take control and go get it done! Do something different with it. A new cut or color. A small change can make a difference. If you are unhappy with your weight, get out there and exercise! Even if you just start out walking, it's better than nothing. If you feel you aren't smart enough, take a class and learn a new language or hobby.
Let's encourage other women to feel great about themselves! Tell your friends what you like about them. Send them an encouraging quote or an inspirational picture. Mail out a "just because" card and let a wonderful woman in your life know you are thinking of them and they are fabulous!! When we uplift others, we will also uplift ourselves...
Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!
-- Anne Frank
The greatest part of our happiness depends on our dispositions, not our circumstances.
-- Martha Washington
I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning to sail my ship.
-- Louisa May Alcott