Another deployment that is... we are almost done and I am so glad!!!
People ask all the time, "how do you do it?".... and now, after the 4th deployment, I think I finally have the answer!!! It's not about keeping yourself busy and throwing yourself into your work or hobbies.... it's not about always being strong and playing the part of some perfect army wife(myth)who hides her feelings so she looks like she's put together.... You get through it with loved ones! Whether it's family or friends. For me, it was my friends.
I have been on a Roller Coaster Ride these past few months of hormonal flip outs and bursts of crying...and I will say this, the only ones who can truly understand, are those who are going through the same thing....
The other night I had my biggest melt down yet and it's been months in the making. If my friends hadn't come over it would have been a horrible night for me... but with their help, I was able to laugh and smile, at what I remember (bad SoCo lol) and yet still whine and cry and look like ass b/c that's what I needed. They understood that and they let me be. They let me get it out without telling me things like:
"Suck it up and deal with it Jamie"
"Stop being a baby and put on your big girl panties"
"You stop this right now, you HAVE to be strong"
No, I didn't hear any of that... I heard funny stories about hotdogs and tacos. When I wanted to bitch about my husband, they let me bitch and added, "amen sista"!!! That is what friends do... if you don't have friends like that, you need to get some ASAP!