Lil Ole Me =)

I asked the ladies on my fan page to ask me some questions and I would tell a little bit about myself. Here are the questions (and the answers to them) that I have gotten so far.

What are your dreams and goals? (from Genia G.)

Let's see, they have changed several times over the years. My dreams and goals in the past have been various.... I have always wanted to be a mommy. I wanted to be a writer at one time, I have a book in which I have lots of poems I wrote as a teenager. Maybe I'll share some. When I was in high school in 10th grade, I decided I wanted to be a Child Psychologist because I wanted to help kids, but than that changed in 11th grade. I didn't think I'd be able to handle doing that because I hate to see kids hurting and I thought I would be too sensitive...yeah, me too sensitive. I really am a big baby at heart. My next "dream" after that had been to be a CPA, certified public accountant. I was always great in math so I thought that would be perfect for me. I am now finishing up my degree for my Associates in Accounting, so that I stuck with.

I can say that my main goal in life now that I am a mother and wife, is to be the best mother and wife I can be for my family. Caring, supportive, loving...blah blah...all that good stuff.

How did you and your hubby meet? What were your dating years like? (from Shantel J.)

This is funny!! Let me give a little background first and move into the story.

In July 1996 I had shaved my head. I was 16 and being my crazy self. In August that year, we moved to a predominantly "black" town. I point this out because when I found out where we moving, I told my boyfriend at that time and he had me scared. He told me that the kids in school were going to think I was a skinhead and racist. He was just messing with me, but I took him seriously. (My BF was a black guy)

So, during the month before school started I kept to myself and stayed inside reading books and would go out at night jogging around. I didn't know anyone on the first day of school. I was so nervous, the new kid, short-short hair, and I was the minority! LOL... I had no idea how this was going to go. At my previous school I was with the popular kids, here, I would be the dreaded "new kid".

When I stepped on the bus that first day of school was when I first saw Darrell. He was in the back of the bus, but I hadn't really noticed him until he called out to me. It wasn't anything like, "Hey baby, how you doin'?", or "Come sit with us.". No, not Darrell, the popular boy who was always cracking jokes and playing sports. I go to sit in my sit and I hear, "Yo dude!" (Remember I had shaved my head). So, of course I knew he was speaking to me and I turned around. The next thing that came out of his mouth turned me all shades of red. "Oh shit, he's got tits!!" Exact words, I will never forget!! LOL

I wanted to just get to my home room and start my day without ever seeing that boy again! Too bad my luck has never been the good kind. I walked into home room and in the back of the class was the boy from the bus. I wanted to turn and walk out but instead I took my seat in the front, away from others. I took out a notebook and decided to write a letter to one of my friends back home about my horrendous morning already and it was only 8am.

The boy from the bus comes up to me and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was writing a letter. He asked me was I writing to him and I told him no. We exchanged names and he told me to write him a letter. So, I did. I asked him about the school and about the town. We became inseparable.

Kirsten M. says: Your life story would be interesting.

Hmmmm...my life story. Short and to the point. My mother was a teen mother and my father ditched her a few months after I was born. When I was 2 my mother met a guy who she ended up staying with for 14yrs (way too long in my opinion). They had my brother when I was 12.

Growing up I was a pretty good kid, never really got into trouble and didn't give my mom a hard time. I did not get along with her BF of 14yrs though, but that is a book in itself.

I was always a good student and one of the popular kids, surrounded by tons of friends. I tended to date the athletic, handsome guys...

I never really got into sports or things in school because I always had to take care of my brother while my mother was working. Remember I said didn't get along with my brothers dad? This is part of the reason. LOL

So, I met my husband and we dated on and off for a few years before getting married.

Click here to see the beginning of our "Army" life.

How did your hubby propose? (from Genia G.)

Most people have some romantic story about their husband proposing, not me. I do remember that after only 2 weeks of knowing each other, my husband had said to me, "Jamie I love you and you're the one I'm going to marry." I thought he was crazy, we barely knew each other. So, six years later, he decides to join the army. After this decision, he came home one night and proposed. He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. My response was, "Are you joking?" LOL. Now I know that sounds a little harsh, but he is the joking type. You have to know him as I did. I honestly thought he was kidding. Turns out he wasn't though. Of course I said yes and we got married 2 weeks later, about 2 months before he left for BCT.

If you could make a new army base, what would you pull from other bases to make it the best? Where would you put it? (Gricelia L.)

Since I haven't been every where, I will take bits and parts from the places I have been. Fort Riley, Fort Carson, Fort Hood, and Fort Stewart....First, I would probably put this "post" of mine somewhere along the East Coast. Not sure where, but there because I am an East Coaster. From Fort Riley I would take the stone buildings from the "old post" section. Those buildings are beautiful. They can keep the heat though. From Fort Carson, I would take a few things. Number one would be the mountains... I loved waking up every morning and seeing them, beautiful and powerful, very moving and inspirational. I would also take Fort Carson's hospital. I always had excellent care there. I loved Fort Carson's thrift shop on post so I would have to take that too. Oh, and this little place in the mini mall that made homemade pie, they did real down south cooking, they would be snatched up too. From Fort Hood, I would definitely take their security. They have had the best I've seen so far. I would also take their FREE pools, and their PX and their Commissary. The Fort Hood area can keep their stank ass traffic and people though. LOL. I can't say what I would bring from Fort Stewart. I have only been here for about a year so I guess I would choose the housing. Well, the housing I live in...LOL... My "post" would be the post where those who are going career and want to be permanently put somewhere would go. Still deployable, but a permanent duty station.

What got you into doing the web pages you do & helping others? (Apryl H.)

When I first moved to Fort Riley, I didn't have the slightest idea of what being an army wife would be like. We had no military near us growing up and the only stories I had ever heard were from my grandpa about war when he was in as a young adult. I was clueless. My husband had only been at his first duty station for a few months before they sent him off to Iraq. Click here to read about our first deployment. So, I basically had to learn everything on my own with the help of other wives I met at church. I was so grateful to have them and I just want to pass it on. I have seen so many new wives purposely kept in the dark when it comes to things because their husbands don't want them to know things. Then there are the wives who were like me, thrown into a shit-storm not knowing anything and doing it all alone. This is why I want to help. I may not be the most supportive person at times, but I will make sure I help get women the correct information. If you ever meet me in person, and I am physically able to help you with something, I will do whatever I can to help. My friends know this. Not only do I like helping others, but this helps me too. It helps me pass time while he gone and it is also a learning experience for me. I learn new things every day from the women on my pages. My husband is going career and the best way I can think to support him and the army community is to help fellow wives/gf/fiances.

What are your favorite things to do with the kiddos when your hubby is away? What do y'all like to do together as a family when he comes home? (Erin M.)

We go out to eat, go to the pool, the library, the movies... we have movie nights at home. We do school functions together. We do these things when he is home too, but add in bowling lol. One thing we don't do while he is gone is "big trips". When they were younger we went back to NJ to visit, but we never stay long. We don't do "vacations" without daddy. This year, before he left, we went as a family to Disney and had a blast!

Do you sparkle in the sunlight? (Jennifer M.)

I only sparkle in the sunlight when I put on make-up that has "sparkles" in it. I would think it would be awesome to sparkle all the time. You know I love attention and that would be a definite attention getter. LOL

Do you mainstream? (Jennifer M.)

I have to admit I had to google "what is mainstreaming" LOL. I am not sure exactly how to answer this. You got me here. So I will go off of the first definition I found, which is.... "Mainstream is, generally, the common current of thought of the majority."... I have never been one to do things or go with things just because a majority of people do it. For example, if the majority here on post walked around in booty shorts because it was the cool thing to do, I would the one in sweats. =)

What are your feelings on faeries copulating with vampires? (Jennifer M.)

This seriously made me choke on my water! Now, let's take this serious for a second and just assume that faeries and vampires are real. Wouldn't this be kind of impossible? I mean faeries are generally small and delicate, right? Vampires are strong and much bigger. However, if they can find a way to work it, by all means go for it. Who am I to say they can't get busy? If they conceived during this, that might be a problem... flying little bloodsuckers? Oh wait, we already have mosquitos.

So, if I get more questions, I will do a second part to this. =)