I've been reading about this woman since I first saw it online in the news.
For a recap or if you're unfamiliar with this woman:
34yr old accused in military scam
Military mistress busted
Now, from reading the stories, there are a few key points I'd like to point out:
1. According to the article this "woman" has been doing this for at least 17yrs
2. According the article, someone spoke to 40 "victims" and 11 ex-husbands
Notice how I have two words in italics and quoted. In my eyes, she is no woman at all. A woman does not need to lie, steal and cheat to make a living and get the things she wants!
I also think the word "victim" is questionable here. In no way do I think what Ms. Finley did was acceptable, but to claim to be a victim of her in this case seems a bit extreme to me.
One of the definitions of "victim" I found seems to fit this case - A person who is tricked, swindled, or taken advantage of.
But, were these men really "victims"? Remember I stated what was in the article: 40 victims and 11 ex-husbands, which would be 51 total that this woman has scammed and in at least 17 years. That averages out to 3 men a year, 1 every 4 months, that she did this to. So, you have to ask yourself, "What the hell were these men thinking?!"
No one deserves to be treated the way these service men were treated, but what do you expect to happen when you marry, or get involved, with a woman you don't know and then hand her the proper tools to wipe you out?! These men made themselves easy targets.
Yes, I know there are relationships that happen fast and they get married within a few months of knowing each other and end up together in a "happily ever after" marriage. It's just my opinion that meeting and marrying someone you've only known for a few months is stupid.
Let me touch on the records of her 9 children that she has left all over the country. Seriously? What kind of person does that crap? It makes me wonder if she is "mental" or had a horrible upbringing herself. To just abandon 9 children is completely un-exusable. However, maybe she did them a favor because she is obviously not capable of caring for them.
There is one thing Ms. Finley said that I agree with to a certain extent. In this article, 'Military Mistress' talks about alleged crime spree, she says, "They're using me at the same time that I was using them." This statement reminds of this article, victims of "military mistress" speak, where a man stated, "she was the daughter of a famous general, and that she would be receiving a large sum from inheritance. She also said that she would only get that money if she was married by her birthday". So, how many men did she say this to? And how many married her because they were looking for a "large sum from inheritance"? Seems a little fishy to me.
Again, I want to repeat that this is all my opinion! LOL. The only people involved in this that I sincerely have sympathy for are the children who were brought into this mess.